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[ MUSIC ] We can't all be ****. We can't all be asking 

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for it. I am here to give you permission to be angry. 

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This reality might not have to be our reality anymore. I 

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felt this crushing sense of powerlessness. This is the 

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time to take my power back. Here's my story. Uber 

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promises. Investigation into sexual harrassment. Fox 

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News cutting its ties with Bill O'Reilley. I felt it was my 

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duty for the women who are silent to be brave. It's 

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okay to stand up for yourself. Taylor Swift appearing in 

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court today. Harvey Weinstein, the New York- People 

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forget a lot that there's a human behind this. Someone 

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who was very hurt and wronged. 

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[ MUSIC ] [ CROSSTALK ] I 

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always thought maybe things could change for my 

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daughter. I never thought things could change for me. 

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[ MUSIC ] 

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Honestly, I was furious. I have had a man grope me in 

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front of multiple collegues and I was tired of wondering 

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if it was something I wore, I was tired of wondering if it 

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was a vibe I was giving off and when I talked to other 

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women they were furious too >> I felt that if I 

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can speak out, may be if I just stand up then someone 

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else would stand up with me >> There wasn't a place 

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For us to report these experiences. But I sure did talk 

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about it a lot over the years. The least I could do was 

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actually tell my own story and validate theirs for them 

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in a way, just as I was hoping someone much bigger 

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than me would help validate my story. And I knew 

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that other women Would continue to apple for jobs 

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there and that made me feel really uncomfortable. I 

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was afraid of the retaliation, I know the power 

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of patriarchy. I know what men can do when their 

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angry. They did everything that they could to prevent 

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me from raising my concerns further. They asked me if 

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there were other girls, maybe that he has done this too 

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and can I go get them. I had to show them that I wasn't 

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lying And it's like they took me for a joke. And if they 

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couldn't stop us from talking, well, they were gonna 

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stop everybody from listening to us. People digging 

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into my Instagram and pulling up sexy photos 

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as if they kind of discredited me. Well, I've seen you in 

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committee. You're really tough. Why didn't you just hit 

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him? Why did you let it go on for so long? I was a smart 

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young woman that had gone to college, that knew how 

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to fight, and I still was manipulated and conned. I felt 

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ashamed that I hadn't spoken out sooner, not having 

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the strength earlier on to make it stop. The feeling 

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of being humiliated as a woman And there's a point 

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you think is it my fault? For so long I 

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went around harboring this ridiculous belief that 

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because I was a non white woman in my 20s, it was 

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expected that I would have to be treated this way. We 

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don't have to just live like this. Few things could change 

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from my daughter I never thought things could change 

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from me. I'm here to give you permission to be angry, 

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people are afraid specially women where conditioned 

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since birth to be polite. To be nice, to 

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be kind, to be liked to not make waves. ****. 

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We can't all be crazy, we can't all be ****, we can't all 

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be asking for it. And I'm telling you that all the people 

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who stand up, all the people who speak out you are 

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teaching people how to treat and you should not be 

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shamed for that. The shame is not ours to hold, the 

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shame is on perpetrator. Me Too can be a 

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conversation starter or it can be the whole 

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conversation. It took away the power 

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from the predator. And placed the power on the 

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victim. And maybe, just maybe we would be able to 

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get a glimpse at the magnitude of this problem. The 

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amount of people sharing the stories with me is so 

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intense. People that were complete strangers reached 

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out to tell very personal stories. It's What they did with 

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this and they did a lot and not only in France in Hong 

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kong japanese. The most months >> I feel like the 

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day that I spoke up and I said you are a sexual 

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harasser I changed >> some 

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of the. Things in the night. [ FOREIGN ]. It's an honor 

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to be the person that hey I spoke up about this. I took 

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on the risk. And I was very humbled and I was very 

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proud. I'm very glad now that the story has been 

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heard. It's a direct response to that arrogance and that 

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show of power and [ UNKNOWN ]. A sense, we won't 

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be silenced. [ MUSIC ]